A place to understand your grief, express your emotions and access help to guide you on your pet loss journey.
PET LOSS & ANTICIPATORY GRIEF SUPPORT
Beppe. Gus. Snowball. Amber. George. Gertrude. Max. Miffy. And most recently, my beautiful Bellatrix.
All goodbyes I never wanted to say and wasn’t ready to say.
All my beloved pets who now live over the rainbow bridge.
Then there was Rags, Susie, B, Diddie, Diddie Jr, Zach, Toby, George, Molly, Benji, Lady and so many more beloved animals who were owned by my family members.
Each goodbye as hard as the last.
For so long I didn’t realise that the reason each grief got harder was because I hadn’t fully explored and accepted my grief previously. I was actually grieving several losses at once which is why it felt so intense.
Remembering the animals we have set free over rainbow bridge, honouring their lives and the changes their loss can bring to our lives is at the heart of what I do.
Throughout my childhood I had many pets, mainly hamsters and rabbits. When my first hamster died it was my first experience of death, but I was far too young to understand it.
When I was about 23 my first cat Miffy died. I was absolutely heartbroken. Even though she was 19 years of age, I still couldn’t help but feel consumed by guilt and flashbacks or her euthanasia. Miffy was my first cat and I got her when I was just a child, so it really felt like I lost my best friend. She taught me so much about life and unconditional love. Even before we made the decision to end her suffering and have her euthanised I was experiencing what I now know is, anticipatory grief.
Recently I lost my beautiful Bellatrix at the young age of 8 in horrific circumstances which I struggled to come to terms with at first. I saw first-hand how pet loss grief is still an extremely taboo subject in our society and I believe it is very misunderstood.
I want to help others to understand their grief journey and to establish coping mechanisms to move forward, without forgetting their beloved companion. I offer a kind and safe space for people to talk about their pet loss grief, rather than suppressing their emotions which can lead to complicated grief.
It is important to remember that your grief journey is unique. Grief is not linear. There is also no timescale for grief. It must be processed at your own pace. Sometimes with the help of a grief coach.
A grief coach like me supports clients by offering emotional support, healing and a way to deal with the anticipation of loss or how to cope after loss. They help clients to work through their feelings by offering a safe space free from judgement to express themselves. They are educated in the language of grief.
The best way to honour your animal is by living your best life.
If you feel like you need support before, during or after the loss of a beloved pet then please book your free discovery call or check out the resources I have made to help.
You don't have to go through this alone!
